Wanderlusting

Wanderlusting- A very strong or irresistible impulse to travel.

Would you expect anything less from a girl who has spent so much of summers, spring breaks, and numerous other vacations traveling? I have been so fortunate to have the opportunities that I have had to see the world.

As of this blog post, I have been to 47 states in the United States. I have been to Canada, the British Virgin Islands, and Italy. This much travel is nearly unheard of for anyone at or under the age of eighteen. I have been sailing in the Caribbean. Floated down a canal in Venice. I have walked along the Grand Canyon in Arizona. I strolled across the Golden Gate Bridge in San Fransisco. I shopped on Michigan Avenue in Chicago. I got sprayed by the rushing waters of Niagara Falls in Ontario. I listened to a man play the accordion in Piazza Novena in Rome while I dined on authentic Italian cuisine. Needless to say, I have had experiences few my age can say they have. However, I cannot help wanting more. I want to experience it all!

I want to experience the hot sun warming my face on a Mediterranean beach. Preferably in Spain. The fog and rainy days of London are in my future as well. A leisurely stroll along the Seine River in Paris while eating a baguette would be lovely too. Surfing in Hawaii. Hiking in Alaska. Observing the endless rolling hills of Ireland. Taking in the beauty of Greece, Scotland, Wales, Portugal, Germany, Austria. I want to accomplish all of these goals in my life.

We all have a bit of wonder and wander in us.

Where do you want to wander off to?

Comment below and let me know!

Beth:)

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18 Things Being 18 Taught Me

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At every age we learn something different about ourselves. We grow, mature, and shape into the adults that we will be one day.

Turning 18 is a stepping stone into adulthood. You are finally considered legal. As for me, this year has been my biggest year yet! I graduated high school and continued my journey into college. I have learned a lot of things along the way which I would like to share with you now.

  1. Do not take your time with others for granted.

  2. It is okay to not know what you are going to do in the future.

  3. Compare yourself to no one.

  4. Patience is key.

  5. It is okay to be wrong sometimes.

  6. Coffee is an essential part of a diet.

  7. Do not feel like you need to act a certain way to impress people. Always be yourself.

  8. Love 100% of yourself 100% of the time.

  9. Grow and mature at your own rate.

  10. Do not be ashamed to take a nap every once in a while.

  11. Working out regularly always makes you feel better. Always.

  12. Some friendships are not meant to last forever.

  13. Do not spend your life on social media. Also, do not put your everything in your life on social media.

  14. Take pictures of everything. You will want them someday!

  15. Have pride in your work. If your name is on it, it represents you, so do your best!

  16. Work hard and everything will work out how it needs to.

  17. More people care about you than you know.

  18. If you do not put 100% of yourself into something, do not expect 100% of the rewards.

My 18th year has been perfect. While the beginning was stressful with my last semester of my senior year, graduation came quickly. It was the most empowering moment of my life. I knew I had worked very hard in high school and that was what I had to show for it. After graduation I took a life changing vacation to Italy which changed my perspective of everything in my world. Then college came and I left home for the first time on my own. What an incredible, changing experience that was! I met so many new and different people and did things I could have never done if I had stayed at home.

I think it is safe to say that this year was as perfect as perfect gets.

Here’s to hoping 19 is just a lovely as 18.

Beth

What It Means to be in a Sorority

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For as long as I can remember I have wanted to be in a sorority. It was never a question. When the Rho Chi’s came around at my school asking if I was interested, I immediately said I was. While they tried to convince other girls who had never even pondered the idea of joining a sorority, I was already hooked. Me being me, I had already researched the heck out of the chapters at my school before I got there. I was set and ready to join years before I even left for college.

 

So Why Did I Join?

I joined for the friendships I knew I would make.

I joined for the instant support system I would have 24/7. I knew that the girl’s I would one day call my sisters would have my back on everything I did. While they may not have agreed with whatever I had done, I knew that they would be there for me.

I joined for all the volunteering I would do. Volunteering has always been a big part of my life and I wanted to continue it well into my college years.

I joined for the memories.

I joined because I have always loved helping people. I want to help my sisters become better versions of themselves while in turn, helping me.

I joined for the generous alumnae chapters that would welcome me home in a new city.

I joined because I am an only child and one day I know I will need my sisters more than ever.

I joined because I wanted to increase my leadership skills. By joining a sorority, I knew I could gain these experiences.

I joined to have a special group of girls that I could bond with more than anyone else.

I joined to make a difference in our world.

I joined to improve my studies.

I joined for networking.

I joined to leave a legacy.

Stereotypes

Sororities tend to have an awful, negative connotation to them. People see all sorority girls as ditsy; girls who like to party, drink, and do other things that would make their founders cringe. However, this is not the case. According to the National Panhellenic Conference (NPC), in the 2011-2012 year 639,021 hours of community service was done by sorority women and $2,855,095 was raised for their selected philanthropies. Does this seem like the hard work and dedication of girls who only joined a sorority to be known as a girl who likes to party?  No. Rather, it seems like a group of women who have decided to strive to be better in their lives. While there are sororities that have reputations, that does not and should not define them. There is more to everyone and EVERYTHING than a reputation.

Concurrently, sorority women typically have a higher GPA than non-sorority women do. Why? We have a support system. We have mandatory study hours every week. Sororities help women to make themselves better. Why does this topic never come up when people talk about sororities? Isn’t the entire point of college to study, graduate, and find a great job that is fulfilling?

Facts like average the GPA, money raised for philanthropies, and community service hours should be discussed more than the negative sides of sororities. We should talk about the great women of history who were in sororities and overcame reputations and stereotypes and showed that sisterhood is such an amazing thing to be involved in.

Famous Sorority women who have gone very far in their careers to extinguish the stereotypes:

Condoleezza Rice

Nancy Grace

Kimberly Williams

Lucy Liu

Coretta Scott King

Joan Lunden

Bette Midler

Leigh Anne Tuohy

Elizabeth Dole

Kristin Chenoweth

Laura Bush

Georgia O’Keefe

Erin Andrews

Jennifer Garner

All of these prominent women have brought something amazing to the world in one way or another. They have set great examples in their chapters and did/ are continually doing so in their lives.

Why I Joined

Last year, I was told that joining a sorority was stupid. I was just paying for friends. Those girls are the stupid girls. I would like to repudiate that false and judgmental typecast. Thankfully, I did not let that negativity change my decision. I knew what I wanted to do and my family supported me and agreed with my decision. I knew there was more to sororities than any of those judgments.

To me, rushing was something I was going to do. I never had second thoughts about it. I wanted to be a part of something legendary and leave my legacy.

Joining my sorority was the best decision I have ever made, as I stated above. Even in the short time that I have been involved I have met incredible women who inspire me every day to grow. I have had an amazing time bonding with them in ways I have not been able to with other people. My sisters are people that I could go to for anything and they know they could always come to me.

By joining a sorority you find your sisters. The sisters who will always be there for you. There for you, when you need your mom or dad at school, when you are missing your boyfriend, and when you need a hug. Sorority sisters are not just lifelong friends, they are family as well.

My lasting thought is to break the stereotypes. Not just the ones about sororities, but the ones in your life. Show people that there is more to you and whatever you love. They may just find out they want to try something new.

Beth:)

New Page!

My new page is called “My Favorites”.

Basically a compilation of all my favorites at a certain time.

Follow the link HERE to take you to my Beauty Favorites.

My New Year Goals

new yearInstead of coming up with resolutions which aren’t always the most attainable, I decided to come up with goals!

In no particular order…

  • Write in my journal everyday (even if it is only a few sentences about something good that happened that day)
  • Study hard, study well
  • Stay better organized
  • Challenge myself
  • Learn something new (Something I want to and that is not a part of school)
  • Stay on my schedule and try not to deviate from it
  • No excuses
  • Read more for myself
  • Stay informed
  • Give myself time to reflect each day
  • Get a new hobby
  • Go on a road trip with my friends
  • Aim to go to the gym at least 3x/week
  • Stop eating bad food/ take smaller portions/ drink more water
  • Focus on myself and how well I am doing as opposed to comparing myself to others
  • Forget about the girls who caused so much drama in my life
  • Play my violin more
  • Try listening to a new genre of music
  • Watch a movie once a week to give myself a break from school
  • Spend more time with my family
  • Spend more time with my Kappa Delta sisters
  • Learn the KD ritual
  • Learn the KD songs
  • Take my clipboard to all chapter meetings and take ample notes
  • Read and refer back to said notes
  • Learn some French
  • Play more tennis
  • Learn to love everything about myself
  • Read my Bible more
  • Blog more
  • Aim high, reach for the stars to accomplish these goals

I hope you all had a wonderful New Years and have an even better 2014!

Let me know what your goals are for the year!

Beth:)

#What2013TaughtMe

#What2013TaughtMe is a twitter hashtag that people use to tell what Twitter taught them

2013 taught me many things.

  1. Set goals for yourself and never stop until you have succeeded
  2. Keep your word
  3. Walk away from petty drama
  4. You may lose friends, and that is okay. You just did not have the same ideals and there’s no problem with that
  5. Welcome change
  6. Be confident
  7. Try new things
  8. Step out of your comfort zone
  9. Learn to adapt
  10. Never give up on yourself

This was a year of immense growth for me. I graduated high school and went to college. I got out of my comfort zone and joined a sorority. I set goals for myself last year and this year and didn’t stop until I achieved them. I welcomed the massive change of leaving home.

I am so thankful for all of the opportunities I received this year and everything I was able to do.

#BestYearEver

Beth:)

Things I Did Not Want to See in 2013

 

new-years-eve-fireworks-382856I am extremely disappointed with how people presented themselves this year.

My first example is my (was my) childhood idol.

Miley Cyrus

I understand your need to stand out and show the world that you are officially an adult. I get that. That is the goal for nearly everyone who exists; to show how much they have grown up. But seriously? You’re 21 years old! As a 19 year old I am so upset with how you have handled your life. I know it’s your own decision, but why mess up your life so early? You had so much going for you. You had an innumerable amount of adoring fans. One which used to be me. In fact I dressed up as Hannah Montana once for Halloween. You captured the hearts of my generation.

I remember seeing you as the opening act for The Cheetah Girls. I saw you in your Best of Both Worlds Tour. I recall thinking your outfits in that tour were very scandalous, but I get it, it was all about creating your adult image…you know when you were 15/16 years old. At 15/16  years old I remember thinking I couldn’t wait to go to college, have a successful life and make myself the best version of myself. Do you think you really are the best version of yourself though? If you think are, then great! Keep it going.

I really disagree with your endorsement of marijuana. The last thing younger children need is someone saying how great something that is so bad for you, is. I really miss the old Miley. honestly, I loved your songs. In fact some of your new tracks aren’t awful either, but your music videos are a different story. Wearing next to nothing? Please, do yourself a favor and have some self respect for yourself. If you are going for the shock factor, it is not working anymore. Everyone is totally over it. You are no longer shocking people, just upsetting them and setting an awful example for children. When I hear that young girls are into “twerking” it makes me dislike you even more. I know you may believe that kids may not watch your stuff (the VMA performance, your music videos, or your speeches) but that is where you are wrong, with the easily accessible  videos on Youtube children of all ages can see your nearly pornographic videos.

Honestly, your videos need to have age restrictions on them. I would never let anyone under 18 watch them. It is setting a terrible example for young girls. “Maybe if I smoke weed, dress provocatively, and stick my tongue out sexually, I’ll get that boy to fall in love with me. As a teenager myself, I can say that I do not want to see it and neither do any of my friends! We all grew up with you and loved you and now we cannot stand you. I am sorry that your fans are no longer loving this “new Miley”. Are you loving her? To me it seems like the change was so drastic that this can’t really be you… You have said in many interviews that you were told to act a certain way to maintain a certain image. I feel like the way you are acting now keeps getting so absolutely absurd that you, once again, are being instructed how to act in order to “relate” to older people who may become your fans. Which by the way, to older people you are just another Lindsey Lohan. Someone who was just another Disney star who had immense potential, then ruined it all trying to grow up too fast. Why did you do this? I know you are not going to read this, but if you were to, I would ask you to rethink what example you are setting for people. Oh, you don’t care? Well when you no longer think that people younger than you are self respecting, blame people such as yourself.

Sexual Music

When did every lyric that came out of a musicians mouth have to be sexual? Is it literally impossible to sing about anything else? A perfect example of this is Robin Thicke’s ever popular, Blurred Lines. Yes, the tune is catchy, I’ll give it that, but the lyrics are so horrible.

Everybody get up
Everybody get up
Hey, hey, hey
Hey, hey, hey
Hey, hey, hey

[Verse 1: Robin Thicke]
If you can’t hear what I’m trying to say
If you can’t read from the same page
Maybe I’m going deaf,
Maybe I’m going blind
Maybe I’m out of my mind
[Pharrell:] Everybody get up

[Pre-chorus: Robin Thicke]
OK now he was close, tried to domesticate you
But you’re an animal, baby, it’s in your nature
Just let me liberate you
Hey, hey, hey
You don’t need no papers
Hey, hey, hey
That man is not your maker

[Chorus: Robin Thicke]
And that’s why I’m gon’ take a good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You’re a good girl
Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic
Talk about getting blasted
I hate these blurred lines
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me
[Pharrell:] Everybody get up

[Verse 2: Robin Thicke]
What do they make dreams for
When you got them jeans on
What do we need steam for
You the hottest bitch in this place
I feel so lucky
Hey, hey, hey
You wanna hug me
Hey, hey, hey
What rhymes with hug me?
Hey, hey, hey

[Pre-chorus: Robin Thicke]
OK now he was close, tried to domesticate you
But you’re an animal, baby it’s in your nature
Just let me liberate you
Hey, hey, hey
You don’t need no papers
Hey, hey, hey
That man is not your maker
Hey, hey, hey

[Chorus: Robin Thicke]
And that’s why I’m gon’ take a good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You’re a good girl
Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic
Talk about getting blasted
[Pharrell:] Everybody get up
I hate these blurred lines
I know you want it
I hate them lines
I know you want it
I hate them lines
I know you want it
But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me

[Verse 3: T.I.]
One thing I ask of you
Let me be the one you back that ass to
Go, from Malibu, to Paris, boo
Yeah, I had a bitch, but she ain’t bad as you
So hit me up when you pass through
I’ll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two
Swag on, even when you dress casual
I mean it’s almost unbearable
In a hundred years not dare, would I
Pull a Pharside let you pass me by
Nothing like your last guy, he too square for you
He don’t smack that ass and pull your hair like that
So I just watch and wait for you to salute
But you didn’t pick
Not many women can refuse this pimpin’
I’m a nice guy, but don’t get it if you get with me

[Bridge: Robin Thicke]
Shake the vibe, get down, get up
Do it like it hurt, like it hurt
What you don’t like work?

[Pre-chorus: Robin Thicke]
Baby can you breathe? I got this from Jamaica
It always works for me, Dakota to Decatur, uh huh
No more pretending
Hey, hey, hey
Cause now you winning
Hey, hey, hey
Here’s our beginning

[Chorus: Robin Thicke]
I always wanted a good girl
(Pharrell: Everybody get up)
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You’re a good girl
Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic
Talk about getting blasted
I hate these blurred lines
(Pharrell: Everybody get up)
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me

[Outro: Pharrell]
Everybody get up
Everybody get up
Hey, hey, hey
Hey, hey, hey
Hey, hey, hey

If you went through and read all the lyrics you can see how awfully offensive they were. Just a quite dissection of them and we notice how forceful, sexual, and demeaning they are. I once read an article about a womens depiction of how all these lyrics are things that have been said to women of rapes. That article completely changed my view of the song. I had never absorbed that lyrics completely, and then I read them in her article and saw for the first time, what this song really means.

“But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty”

No, the girl doesn’t want to “get nasty” just because she grabbed you. That is the stupidest assumption I have ever seen.

Now, let us discuss the obvious drug lyrics.

“Baby can you breathe? I got this from Jamaica
It always works for me”

Yet another example of drugs that are not necessary in lyrics.

Now here’s props to the worst song lyric writer ever:

“You wanna hug me
Hey, hey, hey
What rhymes with hug me?”

IF YOU COULD NOT FIND SOMETHING THAT RHYMED WITH HUG ME, TAKE THE DANG LYRIC OUT OF THE SONG. OH MY GOODNESS.

Next song that I’ll dissect:

By Lady Gaga

I feel good, I walk alone
But then I trip upon myself and I fall
I, I stand up, and then I’m okay
But then you print that shit
That makes me want to scream

So do what you want
What you want with my body
Do what you want
Don’t stop, let’s party
Do what you want
What you want with my body
Do what you want
What you want with my body

Write what you want
Say what you want ’bout me
If you wanna know that I’m not sorry

Do what you want
What you want with my body
What you want with my body

You can’t have my heart
And you won’t use my mind but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want with my body
You can’t stop my voice cause
You don’t own my life but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want (with my body)

Early morning, longer nights
Tom Ford, private flights
Crazy schedule, fast life
I wouldn’t trade it in
‘Cause it’s our life (now let’s slow it down…)

I could be the drink in your cup
I could be the green in your blunt
Your pusha man, ya I got what you want
You wanna escape all of the crazy shit
You’re the Marilyn, I’m the president
And I’d love to hear you sing, girl

Do what I want
Do what I want with your body
Do what I want
Do what I want with your body
Back of the club, taking shots, getting naughty
No invitations, it’s a private party
Do what I want
Do what I want with your body
Do what I want
Do what I want with your body
Ya we taking these haters and we rough ’em up
And we lay in the cut like we don’t give a fuck

You can’t have my heart
And you won’t use my mind but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want with my body
You can’t stop my voice cause
You don’t own my life but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want (with my body)

Sometimes I’m scared I suppose
If you ever let me go
I would fall apart
If you break my heart
So just take my body
And don’t stop the party

You can’t have my heart
And you won’t use my mind but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want with my body
You can’t stop my voice cause
You don’t own my life but
Do what you want (with my body)
Do what you want (with my body)

Do what you want with me
What you want with my body
Do what you want with me
What you want with my body
Do what you want with me
What you want with my body
Do what you want with me
What you want with my body

Just look above at that last verse. How about you don’t “do what you want with my body”

I feel as if this song dehumanizes women. It makes me uncomfortable to listen to this song as I feel as if I am being targeted and being treated like an animal, not like a human.

This is just another sexual song that should not have been produced.

These are the main things that really disappointed me this year.

Really, because I feel like these affect me more than most the entertainment news out there.

Anyway,

There’s that,

Beth