18 Things Being 18 Taught Me

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At every age we learn something different about ourselves. We grow, mature, and shape into the adults that we will be one day.

Turning 18 is a stepping stone into adulthood. You are finally considered legal. As for me, this year has been my biggest year yet! I graduated high school and continued my journey into college. I have learned a lot of things along the way which I would like to share with you now.

  1. Do not take your time with others for granted.

  2. It is okay to not know what you are going to do in the future.

  3. Compare yourself to no one.

  4. Patience is key.

  5. It is okay to be wrong sometimes.

  6. Coffee is an essential part of a diet.

  7. Do not feel like you need to act a certain way to impress people. Always be yourself.

  8. Love 100% of yourself 100% of the time.

  9. Grow and mature at your own rate.

  10. Do not be ashamed to take a nap every once in a while.

  11. Working out regularly always makes you feel better. Always.

  12. Some friendships are not meant to last forever.

  13. Do not spend your life on social media. Also, do not put your everything in your life on social media.

  14. Take pictures of everything. You will want them someday!

  15. Have pride in your work. If your name is on it, it represents you, so do your best!

  16. Work hard and everything will work out how it needs to.

  17. More people care about you than you know.

  18. If you do not put 100% of yourself into something, do not expect 100% of the rewards.

My 18th year has been perfect. While the beginning was stressful with my last semester of my senior year, graduation came quickly. It was the most empowering moment of my life. I knew I had worked very hard in high school and that was what I had to show for it. After graduation I took a life changing vacation to Italy which changed my perspective of everything in my world. Then college came and I left home for the first time on my own. What an incredible, changing experience that was! I met so many new and different people and did things I could have never done if I had stayed at home.

I think it is safe to say that this year was as perfect as perfect gets.

Here’s to hoping 19 is just a lovely as 18.

Beth

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What It Means to be in a Sorority

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For as long as I can remember I have wanted to be in a sorority. It was never a question. When the Rho Chi’s came around at my school asking if I was interested, I immediately said I was. While they tried to convince other girls who had never even pondered the idea of joining a sorority, I was already hooked. Me being me, I had already researched the heck out of the chapters at my school before I got there. I was set and ready to join years before I even left for college.

 

So Why Did I Join?

I joined for the friendships I knew I would make.

I joined for the instant support system I would have 24/7. I knew that the girl’s I would one day call my sisters would have my back on everything I did. While they may not have agreed with whatever I had done, I knew that they would be there for me.

I joined for all the volunteering I would do. Volunteering has always been a big part of my life and I wanted to continue it well into my college years.

I joined for the memories.

I joined because I have always loved helping people. I want to help my sisters become better versions of themselves while in turn, helping me.

I joined for the generous alumnae chapters that would welcome me home in a new city.

I joined because I am an only child and one day I know I will need my sisters more than ever.

I joined because I wanted to increase my leadership skills. By joining a sorority, I knew I could gain these experiences.

I joined to have a special group of girls that I could bond with more than anyone else.

I joined to make a difference in our world.

I joined to improve my studies.

I joined for networking.

I joined to leave a legacy.

Stereotypes

Sororities tend to have an awful, negative connotation to them. People see all sorority girls as ditsy; girls who like to party, drink, and do other things that would make their founders cringe. However, this is not the case. According to the National Panhellenic Conference (NPC), in the 2011-2012 year 639,021 hours of community service was done by sorority women and $2,855,095 was raised for their selected philanthropies. Does this seem like the hard work and dedication of girls who only joined a sorority to be known as a girl who likes to party?  No. Rather, it seems like a group of women who have decided to strive to be better in their lives. While there are sororities that have reputations, that does not and should not define them. There is more to everyone and EVERYTHING than a reputation.

Concurrently, sorority women typically have a higher GPA than non-sorority women do. Why? We have a support system. We have mandatory study hours every week. Sororities help women to make themselves better. Why does this topic never come up when people talk about sororities? Isn’t the entire point of college to study, graduate, and find a great job that is fulfilling?

Facts like average the GPA, money raised for philanthropies, and community service hours should be discussed more than the negative sides of sororities. We should talk about the great women of history who were in sororities and overcame reputations and stereotypes and showed that sisterhood is such an amazing thing to be involved in.

Famous Sorority women who have gone very far in their careers to extinguish the stereotypes:

Condoleezza Rice

Nancy Grace

Kimberly Williams

Lucy Liu

Coretta Scott King

Joan Lunden

Bette Midler

Leigh Anne Tuohy

Elizabeth Dole

Kristin Chenoweth

Laura Bush

Georgia O’Keefe

Erin Andrews

Jennifer Garner

All of these prominent women have brought something amazing to the world in one way or another. They have set great examples in their chapters and did/ are continually doing so in their lives.

Why I Joined

Last year, I was told that joining a sorority was stupid. I was just paying for friends. Those girls are the stupid girls. I would like to repudiate that false and judgmental typecast. Thankfully, I did not let that negativity change my decision. I knew what I wanted to do and my family supported me and agreed with my decision. I knew there was more to sororities than any of those judgments.

To me, rushing was something I was going to do. I never had second thoughts about it. I wanted to be a part of something legendary and leave my legacy.

Joining my sorority was the best decision I have ever made, as I stated above. Even in the short time that I have been involved I have met incredible women who inspire me every day to grow. I have had an amazing time bonding with them in ways I have not been able to with other people. My sisters are people that I could go to for anything and they know they could always come to me.

By joining a sorority you find your sisters. The sisters who will always be there for you. There for you, when you need your mom or dad at school, when you are missing your boyfriend, and when you need a hug. Sorority sisters are not just lifelong friends, they are family as well.

My lasting thought is to break the stereotypes. Not just the ones about sororities, but the ones in your life. Show people that there is more to you and whatever you love. They may just find out they want to try something new.

Beth:)

My New Year Goals

new yearInstead of coming up with resolutions which aren’t always the most attainable, I decided to come up with goals!

In no particular order…

  • Write in my journal everyday (even if it is only a few sentences about something good that happened that day)
  • Study hard, study well
  • Stay better organized
  • Challenge myself
  • Learn something new (Something I want to and that is not a part of school)
  • Stay on my schedule and try not to deviate from it
  • No excuses
  • Read more for myself
  • Stay informed
  • Give myself time to reflect each day
  • Get a new hobby
  • Go on a road trip with my friends
  • Aim to go to the gym at least 3x/week
  • Stop eating bad food/ take smaller portions/ drink more water
  • Focus on myself and how well I am doing as opposed to comparing myself to others
  • Forget about the girls who caused so much drama in my life
  • Play my violin more
  • Try listening to a new genre of music
  • Watch a movie once a week to give myself a break from school
  • Spend more time with my family
  • Spend more time with my Kappa Delta sisters
  • Learn the KD ritual
  • Learn the KD songs
  • Take my clipboard to all chapter meetings and take ample notes
  • Read and refer back to said notes
  • Learn some French
  • Play more tennis
  • Learn to love everything about myself
  • Read my Bible more
  • Blog more
  • Aim high, reach for the stars to accomplish these goals

I hope you all had a wonderful New Years and have an even better 2014!

Let me know what your goals are for the year!

Beth:)

#What2013TaughtMe

#What2013TaughtMe is a twitter hashtag that people use to tell what Twitter taught them

2013 taught me many things.

  1. Set goals for yourself and never stop until you have succeeded
  2. Keep your word
  3. Walk away from petty drama
  4. You may lose friends, and that is okay. You just did not have the same ideals and there’s no problem with that
  5. Welcome change
  6. Be confident
  7. Try new things
  8. Step out of your comfort zone
  9. Learn to adapt
  10. Never give up on yourself

This was a year of immense growth for me. I graduated high school and went to college. I got out of my comfort zone and joined a sorority. I set goals for myself last year and this year and didn’t stop until I achieved them. I welcomed the massive change of leaving home.

I am so thankful for all of the opportunities I received this year and everything I was able to do.

#BestYearEver

Beth:)

Back to Normal

Hello my fellow readers!

That sounded really lame…sup?

That did too…I’ll just get on with it…

So It has been almost a week since I returned from my once in a lifetime vacation. This last week has been spent getting back into the swing of things per se. My sleep schedule has been off for sure. I was so used to only getting six to seven hours of sleep that while I have the opportunity to sleep in, my brain is all like, “nope, not for you!”. Every once in awhile I will wonder what people are doing in Italy. Currently it is 4 am there and that just blows my mind for some reason…

I really have nothing else to say. I am about to go to sleep.

Sleep well my lovely readers,

Beth:)

P.S. Keep up with my college adventures here:

http://collegerantsblog.wordpress.com/

 

Graduation Festivities

Well the time has come and gone. I (finally) graduated from high school last Saturday. It was an experience unlike any other. It was surreal. Here I was with all of these people I had grown up around for so many years, and this was it. we all walked in to the Pomp and Circumstance as one united Class of Seniors. I may be making it sound dramatic, but this is how it all played out in my head.

I walked in with my head held high and made a grand entrance (if I say so myself!). Let me just say, that was quite the empowering feeling. Finally after four years of rigorous classes and so many memories, I was being let out into the “real world”. I walked to my seat (in a line of course because a throw back to elementary school was necessary!). I then began to scan the crowd for my ‘cheering section’, as I like to call it. It took a while as there were nearly 6,000 other cheering sections in this arena. (and yes, we had to get an arena, my high school is THAT big). Once I found them i gave them that silly smirk of embarrassment as they all stood up and waved (which I did appreciate, by the way 🙂 ).

I have sat through 3 high school graduations and, maybe since this was finally mine, the ceremony flew by! I was very nervous until I reached the base of the stage where I had to walk up and the nerves just left. I felt completely confident in myself. I OWNED that stage like a fashion model! Alright, that is a bittt much, but I did feel pride in myself for completing the daunting task of high school.

Leaving the arena felt a bit strange, I will admit. I left behind all of the memories I had ever made with my peers and looked own towards my future.

Can you all tell that I like to make everything dramatic sounding? I promise I only do this in my writing…at least I think so… 😛

After graduation everyone headed back over to our school for one last party. It was an all night party that started at 11 and went until 6. It was such a blast and a great way to end the busy night! They had raffles going on, caricatures, air brush tattoos, bounce houses, casino games, and a hypnotist, and so much food! It was like a carnival! I finally returned home around 6am. I took a short, three-hour nap before I had my family graduation party. That was a lot of fun as well! My parents surprised me with this huge banner that had my name on it! It was so neat and unexpected! My family graduation party was a success! Yesterday, I then had my friend graduation party where I had twenty or so of my friend’s come over and hang out. It was such a blast and we all just talked, ate, played games (catchphrase and ninja to be exact). It was just as great as my family party.

Well, now, the graduation festivities are over, unfortunately. Graduation is an event that I never thought would arrive. It was always like a rainbow. In my sights, but I could never reach it. Yet now, I have reached the coveted pot of gold known as a high school diploma and it feels wonderful.

I wish all of you a wonderful night/day (whenever you read this)

Beth:)

 

New Blog

NEW BLOG UPDATE

I hope everyone is having a great weekend!

I have created a new blog, It is called College Rants. Cute, right? I am very excited for this new blog and I hope you all get just as excited as I am! I am still keeping this blog and will keep posting just all the random stuff that I enjoy to post. College Rants is a blog that will be solely for my college experiences. For example, I will be posting pictures of what I am buying, how I am getting (and staying, hopefully) organized. I will be blogging about the differences between high school and college. I know many of you that read my blog often are around the same age as me so I hope that this blog can also benefit you all!

Thank you all for always reading what I have to say and I hope that my new blog lives up to your expectations and is just as great as this blog is!

Click below to go to the blog

College Rants

Thanks!

Beth:)